| When many of us think of soul mates,
we think of a loving couple whose every thought, word and hope is
realised by the presence of the other partner. Some of us go further,
imagining that meeting their soul mate might be the end of a search
for deep love and understanding.
When researching Finding Your Soul Mate a different picture emerged.
Although couples who responded to my questionnaire spoke of a
deep love and an instinctual ‘knowing’ that they were
meant to be together, they also described the difficulties of
being in osr starting a soul mate love relationship.
Equal to the mountain peaks are the valleys it seems, and many
soul mates love relationships had deep and often painful issues
which demanded attention. The difference however, with soul mate
partners is often the level of commitment to the possibilities
these relationships possess. In some cases even when partners
ran away from the possibilities of such a powerful love, they
found themselves back together again. In some cases each partner
married someone else and pursued separate lives before rediscovering
one another.
Seeing soul mates as people who have spent time together (as
partners, family members of as friends) in previous lives, it
stands to reason that some deep part of them is aware of each
other when they meet in this life. This awareness often surfaces
as feelings and sometimes these feelings can be misinterpreted.
 Sometimes
you may be completely unaware when a soul mate arrives, as I was
in 1983 when sharing a small terrace house in Sydney’s eastern
suburbs. When our fourth co-tenant left for a job interstate,
we advertised for a replacement. After interviewing more than
15 people we were no closer to finding a suitable person, when
Jenny arrived to look at the room. My two co-tenants liked her
immediately but I felt that she was unhealthy and unhappy with
her life, and I didn’t want to live with her.
"Well, since we both like Jenny and you don’t, if
you really don’t want her to live here I suggest that you
pay the rent on the fourth room until we find someone suitable,"
suggested Dominic. Knowing that I couldn’t afford to pay
for an extra room, I accepted Jenny and soon we became firm friends.
Six months later we moved out together to a house of our own
and had the time of our lives. We grew closer and closer until
I noticed that I could start a sentence and Jenny would finish
it. I’d make a humorous comment about a situation and she’d
take it to extremes. We shared two more houses together as we
found one another easy company. Jenny died in the late 1980's,
and several months after her death I delved into our history together.
Through hypnosis I was regressed into a life we had shared together
at the turn of the century in England, where we had both been
men. There we cemented a friendship which was to last lifetimes.
Soul mates as friends, family members and as your children makes
sense when you consider that soul mates are mastering spiritual
lessons together. Discovering the underlying spiritual lessons
together can take some of the tension out of the relationship
and at times such knowledge can explain current behaviour.
An example of this occurred with Carl, whose unshakeable belief
that his partner Rachael would disappear one day without warning
and without trace was undermining their long term relationship.
Through a series of hypnosis regressions it became obvious that
Rachael had been in relationship with Carl previously (in previous
lives) and that things had ended badly three times. In one life
their relationship ended when Rachael (then also a woman) was
caught having an affair. These past life memories were affecting
Carl’s present relationship, reducing his trust of Rachael.
When they had met this lifetime Carl avoided Rachael for the first
four months and she pursued him determinedly. It is possible that
Carl’s deeper memories reminded him of previous pain with
Rachael.
 Soul
mate friendships, relationships and business partnerships offer
us deep spiritual lessons if we are prepared to embrace them.
When you consider how many time you may have lived, there are
opportunities for many soul mate friendships and relationships.
While seeking your one soul mate, perhaps you are overlooking
all the others, and lets face it, you can’t have too many
friends.
This is taken from Paul’s book Finding Your Soul Mate
(2001 Simon & Schuster Aust. Ltd.)
© Copyright 2003 Paul Fenton-Smith |
